Adult BFF's Pt 1
We all remember when we were 12 and would write notes or sign each other's yearbooks proclaiming that we were BFF's ~ you know Best Friends FOREVER. Did anybody actually remain that way?
I didn't. My BFF from 3rd- to 8th grade is now a Facebook friend. In fact a pretty good one. We chat and talk about each other's kids {or kid in her case} but I don't have her address, or cell number. But I have remained friends with 2 BFF's: Colorado BFF, I have known since Freshman year of high school {15 years} and San Diego BFF I have known since Sophomore year of high school {so 14 years}. I guess if they are SD BFF and CO BFF, that would make me TN BFF. Or not...How about Awesome BFF? Or even Cupcake BFF. {Make a note girls when referencing me online and you want to protect my anonymity use Cupcake BFF.}
You may think that since we have been friends for so long it has always been smooth sailing. Not so much. As tri-BFFs (you say pair of something but what is the word for 3 of somethings??) we have had our ups and downs. As is the case with me and my 2 sisters, it seems that for a while 2 of us would be closer and the 3rd would be off alone somewhere. But since currently all 3 of us are spread across the country this no longer applies. I also think we needed to all grow up so that we moved past the bitter, competitive stages and learned to embrace our friendship.
We have though always been there when 1 of us needed the other 2. It's like my post the other day about marriage: being friends is work and lots of communication. In the past we would get lazy or upset and instead of talking about it, we would distance ourselves, {on a couple of occasions for a year or more} only to come back and realize how empty a place is in our heart without the other BFF.
One of my "resolutions" this year is to be a better friend. I want to talk to my BFF's weekly. Even when I am busy, even when I am sick or tired. You never know when someone may need that call. I also LOVE snail mail and plan to send cards at least once a month. {hmm let's disregard the fact that I still haven't printed pictures for, and mailed my Christmas cards....}
CO BFF is turning 30 in May and I hope to make it the BEST!!! day/weekend {whatever} ever. 2011 was a shitty year for her: she got divorced and moved from SD to CO. She left her friends behind for her dysfunctional family. I want her to see 2012 as a new beginning not as the end. SQUASHY!!
I didn't. My BFF from 3rd- to 8th grade is now a Facebook friend. In fact a pretty good one. We chat and talk about each other's kids {or kid in her case} but I don't have her address, or cell number. But I have remained friends with 2 BFF's: Colorado BFF, I have known since Freshman year of high school {15 years} and San Diego BFF I have known since Sophomore year of high school {so 14 years}. I guess if they are SD BFF and CO BFF, that would make me TN BFF. Or not...How about Awesome BFF? Or even Cupcake BFF. {Make a note girls when referencing me online and you want to protect my anonymity use Cupcake BFF.}
You may think that since we have been friends for so long it has always been smooth sailing. Not so much. As tri-BFFs (you say pair of something but what is the word for 3 of somethings??) we have had our ups and downs. As is the case with me and my 2 sisters, it seems that for a while 2 of us would be closer and the 3rd would be off alone somewhere. But since currently all 3 of us are spread across the country this no longer applies. I also think we needed to all grow up so that we moved past the bitter, competitive stages and learned to embrace our friendship.
We have though always been there when 1 of us needed the other 2. It's like my post the other day about marriage: being friends is work and lots of communication. In the past we would get lazy or upset and instead of talking about it, we would distance ourselves, {on a couple of occasions for a year or more} only to come back and realize how empty a place is in our heart without the other BFF.
One of my "resolutions" this year is to be a better friend. I want to talk to my BFF's weekly. Even when I am busy, even when I am sick or tired. You never know when someone may need that call. I also LOVE snail mail and plan to send cards at least once a month. {hmm let's disregard the fact that I still haven't printed pictures for, and mailed my Christmas cards....}
CO BFF is turning 30 in May and I hope to make it the BEST!!! day/weekend {whatever} ever. 2011 was a shitty year for her: she got divorced and moved from SD to CO. She left her friends behind for her dysfunctional family. I want her to see 2012 as a new beginning not as the end. SQUASHY!!
Count me in for planning CO BFF's birthday too!!!!! She's got the hints for mine too, haha. SD BFF, out!
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